Why should your kids have everything you didn’t?

'We can't afford it.'

I say it with relish and chew on the words.

I am fortunate in that my family life is reasonably financially secure (unlike my childhood – where a constant theme was my single father worrying about how he would pay for next month, next year and old age). So I am not in a situation where the electricity bill will be cut off, and for that I know I am blessed.

But when my kids talk about a new toy, see an advertisement on TV or a toy or a 'household convenience good', junk food, packaged, merchandised, theme branded goods (Ben 10 or latest movie this or that), a trip to Disneyland or a holiday in a dream destination, we just can't. Yes we can save up for birthdays and Chrismas gifts, but pocket money is in small quantities is about all they get and they know not to ask when we are out shopping. Because no is no.

Easy come, easy go.

And the sooner my kids realise that they can't have everything, it might just be for the better. To leave home, enter the workforce and realise they can't have the new lounge suite, the very latest gadget, the trip overseas and/or a new pair of shoes every week, maybe the sooner they will be happy with what they do have.

Maybe I am being too hard on my kids, that I will find out in the future.  But I want them to understand that life will always be about choice. For everyone.

About Jodie

It is only by questioning and discussing and attempting to view the world our childrens children will live in, that we start to understand that life isn't a linear process - it is a room of dominoes falling. Our world has a lot of special interests and stakeholders that by default, keep science undone, and economics hooked in the 1920's - resulting in governments that don't address the complexity that is challenging our world. From pollution to mental health (and the cost of food) to the health of our freshwater - it's complex and dynamic. What equilibrium do we want to reach - a healthy vital one or a suffering one?
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One Response to Why should your kids have everything you didn’t?

  1. I couldn't agree more!!! Being financially secure doesn't mean that you are now able to buy kids anything they want or expect – it's teaching them financial responsibility so that they too can be secure one day. I am sure that always getting them the latest toy would set them up into habits of expectations that could possibly go on into adulthood e.g. a bigger house, the newest model of car, etc, etc, etc. Thanks for giving me something to chew over while I knit. Love Kate xxooxx.

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